I was asked by Amanda Ray, who works passionately to stop domestic abuse, to provide a man’s perspective. To tell a man’s story.
If it could happen to me, it could happen to anybody. I’ve run my own business. I’ve worked for blue-chips and start-ups. I have a PhD. The kind of things you perhaps wouldn’t expect a battered spouse to have achieved.
If this helps just one person avoid the terrible fate of domestic abuse, then writing it has been worthwhile.
To everyone out there who is being belittled and abused, let me tell you from experience they will never change.
Things will only get worse. You have to take responsibility for your life and leave. Only you can do that.
No more excuses –
•Yes, they do mean it
•No, they won’t change
•No, it’s not because they are stressed or having a bad day
•No, you don’t love them. You think you do, but it’s not love
•And, no they don’t love you. What they love is having someone to blame for their inadequacies
•I have no money, where will I live.
These are excuses and not a reason for staying.
Hidden Harm – a survivor’s story of living with drug addict parents by Veronica Cook
Veronica is a survivor, her childhood experiences were challenging, but she has come through trauma and heartache with a message for others in drug taking families. She always wanted a normal life, which she now has with her own loving family. She is reaching out to help others like her.
How many times have you said, ‘I have no willpower’ when trying to give up an addiction?
Interesting thing is, willpower has nothing to do with it.
It’s all about your attitude, your mindset. If you want to succeed at something, then you will, no matter what obstacles are put in front of you.
Lack of willpower is an excuse for why you haven’t succeeded.
Nyarugusu DailyStep English Clubs vision
1.To help young refugees to learn English as a key of communication and development
2.To help young pregnant girls and mothers, can an education. As normal schools won’t allow them to attend (they are seen as a disgrace, yet many became pregnant by being raped)
3.To encourage refugees especially those who are considered by the community as being disadvantaged to due poor English skills or home life.