Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate; people do… A Man’s Story

I was asked by Amanda Ray, who works passionately to stop domestic abuse, to provide a man’s perspective. To tell a man’s story. If it could happen to me, it could happen to anybody. I’ve run my own business. I’ve worked for blue-chips and start-ups. I have a PhD. The kind of things you perhaps wouldn’t expect a battered spouse to have achieved. If this helps just one person avoid the terrible fate of domestic abuse, then writing it has been worthwhile.

They said ‘sorry’, so it won’t happen again… yes it will 

To everyone out there who is being belittled and abused, let me tell you from experience they will never change. Things will only get worse. You have to take responsibility for your life and leave. Only you can do that. No more excuses - •Yes, they do mean it •No, they won't change •No, it's not because they are stressed or having a bad day •No, you don't love them. You think you do, but it's not love •And, no they don't love you. What they love is having someone to blame for their inadequacies •I have no money, where will I live. These are excuses and not a reason for staying.

Cancer is a scary word… 

With any major life threatening illness it is one step forward and two steps back. And the journey doesn't end when treatment finishes. The drugs take years to get out of your system so extreme exhaustion becomes a constant daily reminder.

Dreams Deferred… Though my dreams lie dormant, they never dried-up! 

Fayton is an award winning Actor, Poet, Novelist and Spoken Word Artist, SAG-AFTRA. Author of award winning memoir, ‘Conception of a Dialysis Patient', (the untold truths), was well received by critics and publishers. His latest novel published this year is titled ‘Indignation’, kicking fiction into a realm of unsettling candour! With his permission, I’m honoured to publish his latest poem ‘Dreams Deferred’. Anyone who has had to put their dreams on hold will relate to the beautiful poem.

Giving Hope… giving Hope to people is Priceless! 

Nyarugusu DailyStep English Clubs vision 1.To help young refugees to learn English as a key of communication and development 2.To help young pregnant girls and mothers, can an education. As normal schools won't allow them to attend (they are seen as a disgrace, yet many became pregnant by being raped) 3.To encourage refugees especially those who are considered by the community as being disadvantaged to due poor English skills or home life.