Martin Luther King, I have a dream…

AbuseIt’s ‘Abuse against the Elderly’ awareness week. And, where are all the celebrities saying, ‘Real people don’t abuse the Elderly’, or we stand united against ‘Elderly abuse’.

Why hasn’t anyone, organised a rally or walk-a-thon to support and raise money for ‘Abuse against the Elderly’?

In 1963, Martin Luther King said – ‘I have a dream, a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. That one day this nation will rise up and live up to it’s creed. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal’ He was of course, referring to racism against African Americans.

So when I think about the lack of media attention for ‘Abuse against the Elderly’ awareness week, I think of his quote. Except, I have changed it to reflect our modern times.

‘I have a dream, a dream deeply rooted in humanity. That one day humanity will recognise that domestic violence & abuse is abuse against humanity. That the world will rise up and stand united against all forms of abuse. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all people are created equal.’

Self-evident, well until today, I was a member of several support groups for DV against women and I asked why there was no media attention for ‘Elderly Abuse’. What surprised and stunned me were the replies I received.

The elderly are not abused at the same rate as women are that’s why it’s not talked about as much.

What you mean is you want women to be silenced. You want to play victim, whilst telling women who are victims to shut up. You are Pathetic!’

The elderly don’t live in fear, whereas women were overwhelmingly afraid of their violent ex-partner or partner.’

The elderly don’t end up in hospital or the morgue, only women do.’

These are some the milder replies I received. I was called evil and much worst. Remember, these were support groups for DV survivors. And, they saw nothing wrong in criticising and verbally abusing me.

They see nothing wrong with verbally abusing the elderly, men or disabled. Why, because only women are murdered, only women live in fear. That is the message that I received from these groups.

Well, I say NO your message is wrong. If you want to be an advocate for DV then you need to include all of humanity, regardless of race or gender. Abuse is Abuse.

‘I have a dream, a dream deeply rooted in humanity. That one day humanity will recognise that domestic violence & abuse is abuse against humanity. That the world will rise up and stand united against all forms of abuse. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all people are created equal.’

Will you share the dream with me?